The moment that changed me for ever was the moment my first child was born. I was happy, filled with hope, and thought, 'Now I understand the whole point of work, of life, of love.'

• It's only when you're alone that you realize where you are. You have nothing to fall back on except your own resources.
• The people of Hong Kong are criticized for only being interested in business, but it's the only thing they've been allowed to do.
• When I started writing, I did have some idealised notion of my dad as a writer. But I have less and less of a literary rivalry with him as I've gone on. I certainly don't feel I need his approval, although maybe that's because I'm confident that I've got it.
• Death is an endless night so awful to contemplate that it can make us love life and value it with such passion that it may be the ultimate cause of all joy and all art.
• You define a good flight by negatives: you didn't get hijacked, you didn't crash, you didn't throw up, you weren't late, you weren't nauseated by the food. So you are grateful.
• Friendship is also about liking a person for their failings, their weakness. It's also about mutual help, not about exploitation.
• If you're a misanthrope you stay at home. There are certain writers who really don't like other people. I'm not like that, I don't think.
• When I began to make some money, I really wanted to have a home.
• The moment that changed me for ever was the moment my first child was born. I was happy, filled with hope, and thought, 'Now I understand the whole point of work, of life, of love.'
• The Peace Corps is a sort of Howard Johnson's on the main drag into maturity.